To write about what happened to you or to talk about things like your rape is not an easy thing to do, you require a lot of courage to do so. It is very hard to deal with this situation and getting out from this problem is almost impossible and yet it was the most horrible thing ever happened but still you should always remember that rape doesnt define me
It could be that he took you out for a date and that night ended up with taking away the most precious thing from you. It could be that even after the incident you would have to come face to face with the same person again especially if he was your friend or colleague.
This is a true story of a girl and after that incident she started avoiding going in campus dining halls and gym because that person used to be there and she wanted to avoid him as much as she could. Her life was just revolving around how to avoid that assaulter and she started to compromise her schedules and quality because of that person. After she got raped she was unable to trust men around her.
There comes a time when you start blaming yourself for everything that happened to you. You would avoid to face the same individual again at any cost which in return makes you feel more depressed, lonely and sad. Keep remembering it was not something you wanted to happen at all.
There was a time when she cut off from the outer world and it was that time when she realized she has to get back to normal life and all of this should get ended now. Because you cannot give anyone permission to take control over you life and make it worse for you.
During that time, she worked on herself and was back to live her life. You should not give permission to others to control your life for you and its important to try to get back to normal as soon as possible otherwise more complication arises. You have to face your assaulter and look them back straight into their eyes to make them aware that you're not scared of them anymore.
Till this day, there are people who want to keep this topic hushed away and they think if such problem comes out in open, it will not be a good thing. The fact its, with time people are becoming more intelligent and they like talking about problems and issues so you should try to contribute as much as you can.
It can take years for you to tell your story after such an incident but you should never feel ashamed of yourself because it was not something that happened because of you or you were not at fault. You will go through many emotional phases and although what happened to you was horrible but still you have to learn how to trust people again. Rape cannot define your personality it was just a very bad phase of you life and it was a horrible time but things do get better with time all you need is faith.
It could be that he took you out for a date and that night ended up with taking away the most precious thing from you. It could be that even after the incident you would have to come face to face with the same person again especially if he was your friend or colleague.
This is a true story of a girl and after that incident she started avoiding going in campus dining halls and gym because that person used to be there and she wanted to avoid him as much as she could. Her life was just revolving around how to avoid that assaulter and she started to compromise her schedules and quality because of that person. After she got raped she was unable to trust men around her.
There comes a time when you start blaming yourself for everything that happened to you. You would avoid to face the same individual again at any cost which in return makes you feel more depressed, lonely and sad. Keep remembering it was not something you wanted to happen at all.
There was a time when she cut off from the outer world and it was that time when she realized she has to get back to normal life and all of this should get ended now. Because you cannot give anyone permission to take control over you life and make it worse for you.
During that time, she worked on herself and was back to live her life. You should not give permission to others to control your life for you and its important to try to get back to normal as soon as possible otherwise more complication arises. You have to face your assaulter and look them back straight into their eyes to make them aware that you're not scared of them anymore.
Till this day, there are people who want to keep this topic hushed away and they think if such problem comes out in open, it will not be a good thing. The fact its, with time people are becoming more intelligent and they like talking about problems and issues so you should try to contribute as much as you can.
It can take years for you to tell your story after such an incident but you should never feel ashamed of yourself because it was not something that happened because of you or you were not at fault. You will go through many emotional phases and although what happened to you was horrible but still you have to learn how to trust people again. Rape cannot define your personality it was just a very bad phase of you life and it was a horrible time but things do get better with time all you need is faith.
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