Sizzle.
Can you hear it? I'm about to tell you what's cooking.
If you took the time to ask 100 different people what their main goal in life was, you would probably get a mass majority giving you an answer relating to happiness.
But what does it actually mean to live a happy life? How do we create a happy life on such an emotion that's as momentary as any other emotion in the book? I mean, in theory this sounds like a really great idea...but how is it actually done?
Not many people really know. A lot of people have come up with systems and books on the subject, but when it really comes down to it everyones experience is completely different. All we know is that like any other emotion in the book, when it's there it's there.
When we are happy we are just happy. But when we are suffering in any way, we try to fix it, change it, manipulate it and get it as far away as possible. We try to rid ourselves from these bad feelings quickly in order to hopefully get back to happiness, but that never really works.
There's significant danger in this type of behavior because if you create a false ladder of ascension, you will always come across life's wondrous way of ripping the rug out from beneath you at the most inconvenient time. When that happens, you will try to take a step back on the ladder rung below only to find that it isn't there.
Where are you headed? Like a rock to the bottom.
Bang. Knocked out. In pain. Life is miserable.
So what can you do to avoid this?
It's time to bring in the "frying pan analogy." Essentially, the frying pan of life is those hard and dark moments in your life that scare you a little. The goal here: get close to them. Get close enough to those moments that you can experience the thoughts, emotions, and feelings surrounding them but stay far enough away so you don't get completely overwhelmed by them and take yourself out of the game.
Going through this process will really allow you to heal.
Chaos and a little craziness...those are good things. You want that energy flowing through you, and if you can harness it and create art with it, whatever that art may be, the possibilities are endless.
Many think that only good places create good feelings. Nevertheless, happiness, love, compassion, those all critical characteristics we want for ourselves, can come from the darkness, chaos, and a little bit of madness. We believe that darkness only implies darkness. But could there be the presence of light, joy, and positive emotions even in the roughest moments of our lives?
Be brave enough to do this.
Maybe we should not be searching for happiness. Maybe we should be seeking to dive inside ourselves as much as possible and come to places of understanding and compassion. When we are open to all things then anything can happen.
So how about you try it out? It could change your entire life.
Can you hear it? I'm about to tell you what's cooking.
If you took the time to ask 100 different people what their main goal in life was, you would probably get a mass majority giving you an answer relating to happiness.
But what does it actually mean to live a happy life? How do we create a happy life on such an emotion that's as momentary as any other emotion in the book? I mean, in theory this sounds like a really great idea...but how is it actually done?
Not many people really know. A lot of people have come up with systems and books on the subject, but when it really comes down to it everyones experience is completely different. All we know is that like any other emotion in the book, when it's there it's there.
When we are happy we are just happy. But when we are suffering in any way, we try to fix it, change it, manipulate it and get it as far away as possible. We try to rid ourselves from these bad feelings quickly in order to hopefully get back to happiness, but that never really works.
There's significant danger in this type of behavior because if you create a false ladder of ascension, you will always come across life's wondrous way of ripping the rug out from beneath you at the most inconvenient time. When that happens, you will try to take a step back on the ladder rung below only to find that it isn't there.
Where are you headed? Like a rock to the bottom.
Bang. Knocked out. In pain. Life is miserable.
So what can you do to avoid this?
It's time to bring in the "frying pan analogy." Essentially, the frying pan of life is those hard and dark moments in your life that scare you a little. The goal here: get close to them. Get close enough to those moments that you can experience the thoughts, emotions, and feelings surrounding them but stay far enough away so you don't get completely overwhelmed by them and take yourself out of the game.
Going through this process will really allow you to heal.
Chaos and a little craziness...those are good things. You want that energy flowing through you, and if you can harness it and create art with it, whatever that art may be, the possibilities are endless.
Many think that only good places create good feelings. Nevertheless, happiness, love, compassion, those all critical characteristics we want for ourselves, can come from the darkness, chaos, and a little bit of madness. We believe that darkness only implies darkness. But could there be the presence of light, joy, and positive emotions even in the roughest moments of our lives?
Be brave enough to do this.
Maybe we should not be searching for happiness. Maybe we should be seeking to dive inside ourselves as much as possible and come to places of understanding and compassion. When we are open to all things then anything can happen.
So how about you try it out? It could change your entire life.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a fearless adventurer, professional life coach and writer. He is on a mission to incite the hearts and minds of those around him and help them live their best lives. Read more of his work at The Better Man Projects and throw yourself into these Sylvia Plath Quotes for some more inspiration and motivation.
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